Open Question: Why won't my girl(-friend) have sex with me or hook up with me on a regular basis?

4 February 2012, 11:43 pm

my girl and i are mutually exclusive.she is beautiful both inside and out.she is slender with a sweet ass and the most amazing bust i have ever laid mouth or eyes upon.her vagina even smells like a flower and she gets wet rather easily.i tell her she's beautiful every day and she tells me how much she loves bein with me and how she loves my dick(its 6.2-6.7')thinks im attractive and blablabla...so the question....WHY THE HELL WONT SHE HOOK UP WITH ME?!.ive fingered her 3x over the course of 1.5 years and played with her breasts more times than i can count.we kiss a lot and she's blown me before...approx 4x and NEVER lets me finish....and we still havent had sex.she jerked me off maybe once but didnt finish either.the 3x i fingered her she came at least 2x each time.whenever i bring sex up(we have a VERY open and honest relationship),she first gets defensive and then eventually says she just doesnt know why...and the sad thing is,i believe her. The really funny thing is we've been friends since we were like 16(shes 21) and we were both very sexually active (not with eachother but with our respexctive lovers/significant others) and about 2 years ago SHE asked me if we could be friends w. benefits....or fuck buddys rather.she said she was really attracted to me,thought we had chemistry,but didnt want a serious relationship.im a guy so obviously i was down ha.and it turned into the exact opposite.we're now in a very loving relationship...we chill every day,kiss and go out on dates but she wont hook up with me on an even rare basis.i just dont get it.her last boyfriend was abusive mentally and has even pushed her and if im not mistaken he even smacked her once but she swears shes over him as well as the trauma(though i know deep down she still feels at least a little pain),and shes admitted that in the past she had sex for the wrong reasons.she'd use it to gain a flase sense of intimacy which she regrets...no,she was not a slut, and the amount of people shes slept with is no more than 6 but now shes basically prude...i just dont get it.i feel whenever i play the "neglectful asshole" card she's more affectionate but i cant act like that all the time.its not who i am and she even says that she genuinely doesnt like when i do that,but girls deep down are crazy and love being hurt emotionally lol jk...i hope.shes had sex with a dude who had a 4.5 inch dick erect and we joke about it sometimes because we're open like that.we share all of our sex stories and accept one another for who we truley are.i love that about our relationship and i love almost everything about her as she says she does me(loves almost everything about me)i love sex and she claims to as well...last time we took a "break"(which i advised due to the problem of our lack of intimacy),i hooked up with another girl(tho i didnt fuck her cause i still had feelings for MY girl),and she cried when i told her about it.she even almost forced herself to have sex with me just so she wouldnt lose me again.im happy to say she decided not to because she knows that if it isnt right for her,it isnt right for me either(thjat made me very proud.)obviously we patched things up since then and it led to the last 2 times i fingered her(she actually got embarassed at how wet she got when she came....which i cant for the life of me understand because she knows i think shes sexy as hell and i get satisfaction out of knowing i can get her so wet+climax)but we havent done anything serious in months and its like pulling teeth to get her to even touch my dick.we're both tested and clean btw.....so...my questions 1.why won't she have sex with me? 2.why won't she let me eat her out(which i like doing even more than i like getting head)? 3.and why does she not do anything but kiss me(and let me fondle her boobs frequently)on a daily basis? 4.What do you think i should do to try and make her more sexually open and willing to engage in more physical acts of intimacy on a regular basis....or should i just throw everything we have away and dump her so i can have meaningless sex with other cute girls(or find another suitable wifey)? neither of us are perfect....but she loves my writing and music(which are extentions of my soul) as well as my body and mind...i love that she loves those things about me and i love her specific talents and flaws as well as her mind and body.but between her not sleeping over more than once a year or vice verca and us not doing anything other than kissing and light petting on a daily basis i dont feel im left with many options...do i end the exclusive part of our relationship and risk hurting the girl i potentially am falling in love with again?or do i stick it out and hope she comes around?alls i know is i cant keep doing this to her or myself.what would you do?what should i do?why are things the way they are?thank you so much for your time and please answer seriously,intuiti... Read More »

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